Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts

Thursday, 15 November 2012

Confession: I’ve not always loved reading.

My sister was the one who loved reading. Growing up, she almost always had a book in her hand; in the kitchen, in the car, while eating, walking from the dining room to our bedroom, etc. Our shelf was full of books. I probably owned 0.05(!) of them. What a pity.

My mother noticed my apathy to reading and sought to do something about it. I was about 8 or 9 years old then, I think. She encouraged me to read and decided to reward me with money for every book I read and gave a verbal review of. Sounded good to me; I wanted the money. So I’d read one of my sister’s books and would tell her what I read. I would ‘earn’ money, come back with more reviews and then ‘earn’ more money. But the interesting thing was since I was young and didn’t have many financial aspirations at that time (I already had lots of toys and a bicycle), I would always give the money back to my mother for safekeeping, which I never claimed. At some point, I stopped reading for money because I was reading several books per week! Another reader in the family had been born.

But then, in my early teens, my father felt I was not reading enough African literature (remember: Sweet Valley High, Baby Sitters Club, etc.), so he gave me couple of African books that, I think were difficult for my age at that time… or maybe not, only he knew what his intentions were. But his approach demanded more: unlike the tales I would narrate to my mother of which book I had read, I was to write my review of each book, write all the unfamiliar words I came across in my reading and learn these new words by finding out what they meant from the dictionary. And he did make sure to mark my homework (or do we call it, daddy-work?), of course, he is a professor of Ghanaian and African literature!

So in my living abroad experiences, I’ve always been a card holder of public libraries. It’s fun to walk into a library and surprise the old lady volunteer (they have mostly been old ladies!), when I ask for the bestseller section and she provides me with her take on a few of them. I would check out a variety of books each week and return them often before the due date. I intend to keep this habit, should I have the opportunity to live abroad again in the near future. Perhaps, I will return to Ghana with a ship full of purchased books for consumption and to be given as gifts, lol! I also have an ambition of owning a bookstore. My wish might just come true. But first, I need to add to the collection of books of this world. So help me God.  

I would want my children to develop a love for reading much earlier than I did. I know an older woman in my church who taught her grandchildren to read by the age of three years. When she told me this, I exclaimed, “Wow, three years!” Then I understood why her grandchildren were proficient readers among their peers in my Sunday School class and why her own children, who are my peers, had been avid readers when we were growing up. I’ll need to go back to learn some skills from this woman on how she accomplished this in her family. In recent years, I’ve started building a collection of children books. I try to select them with care, so that I can answer questions when they come up, but you never know, kids always ask the most unsuspecting questions, don’t they?

I’m grateful to my mom, who sparked the fire for my reading craze. Yaaay, it’s my hobby now! Although I did not catch it earlier, I’m beginning to see why it is not healthy to have an appreciable understanding of one’s own local literature and I believe that is one on the things my dad had been trying to teach me in my teen years. I’m always amazed at how much my dad reads despite his impossibly busy schedule. I’m also grateful for my sister, her personal library became mine in those early years and I was never for want of books or have never been because I still get to borrow her books.

Now, I love reading!
Lady Akofa.

Monday, 12 November 2012

Why I love reading

I’ve been reading a lot lately. And that’s because I’ve a lot of time on my hands to do so without much distraction. I’ve several unfinished books, including a John Grisham book from 2009 or 2010 (I think?), which I started reading on a flight on one of my work trips. The next time I picked up the book, I couldn’t remember who the main character was and what the plot was about. I put the book down, because it would mean starting all over again and I wasn’t ready for a fresh start yet.  I’ve found that while I’m hoping to finish reading those half-read books, I’ve been adding new stacks of books to my ‘to-read list’ by moving unread books to from my shelf or my sister’s shelf to my bedside table or just about anywhere in my room where I can have easy access to them. 

I’ve just finished reading an insightful blog post targeted at Christian men on how they can grow in their faith. At the end of my reading, I felt my heart soar and I thought, “Wow, this is really uplifting! Even though men are the target audience of the article, look at how blessed I am too! I love reading and wish everybody loved to read just as I do!” And that has got me thinking, “Why do I love reading? What do I get from it?”

I love to read books or articles that stimulate me to think critically about life, God, my beliefs, my values, health and nutrition, the world, social change and justice, hot bottom issues - some of which are not ‘issues’ in my country, Ghana (at least, not yet), etc. 

Through my love for reading, my worldview has been shaped largely by Christian literature, well… that is mostly what I read these days, lol! When I was younger, I would read all kinds of stuff: Baby Sitters Club (anyone?), The Pacesetters, Sweet Valley View, Sweet Valley High, Enid Blyton books, etc., and some romantic books, that I was warned not to read. I found a love in Mary Higgins Clark, John Grisham’s works, Condensed Readers’ Digest Collections, among others and I had friends with whom we would exchange our latest findings or purchase. As I grew older and especially when I got born again, I lost interest in such books. Apart from my Bible, I was hungry for Christian books for the most part. However, I do light reading (newspapers, magazines, blogs, comic stuff) as well but I’m selective about what I read now.  My worldview about relationships, marriage and family, work, my faith, politics, health, etc. have been shaped by a combination of both what I’ve learned from the my walk with God, at home, at school and through what I’ve read. Oftentimes, the literature gives explanations or scientific evidences for why, for example, my mother would let not me run off to play immediately after eating lunch or supper as a child or why, it is good to drink water first thing in the morning. 

There are a lot of things that I know about this beautiful world and life not as a result of classroom/lecture sessions or because my parents or a mentor taught me but because “I read it somewhere.” Oftentimes, in a conversation a friend would ask how I know what I’m saying and if I couldn’t remember the exact book or article, my response would be, “I read it somewhere!” Despite the best efforts of the government, the regulatory agencies and teachers, I think the educational system in Ghana is unsatisfactory and one needs to back up school lessons with self-motivated, individual lifelong learning. Reading is just one of those avenues for learning.

Reading gives me fodder for writing. When I read, I often get ideas for how to write; “Oh, I like the way she skillfully constructed that sentence,” or “Wow! See how the author brilliantly uses the two adjectives to describe the dog!” I also do get ideas for what to write, “This aspect would make a good insert in a short story,” or “The issues raised in this article about child-labour will make a good story. It’s amazing how children are lured away from their homes and schools into force labour!”

I’m sure there are more reasons why I love reading, but the above are what immediately come to mind.

Read! Read! Read!
Lady Akofa.

Sunday, 13 May 2012

Not-so-Happy Mother's Day

I love Mother’s Day because it gives me the opportunity to celebrate my mom …and me: a future mama. : -)

But this season tends to remind others of their unfulfilled dreams. Arms that never carried their own baby. Full hearts that ache to pour out love into children they can call their own.

“Why does she get pregnant and have a baby within 9 months of her wedding and I don’t?”
“Oh, God… what more prayers do I have to say before You’ll let me carry my own child? Just one baby will do, that’s all!”

It gets very uncomfortable in church settings when a baby is brought up to be dedicated to the LORD by parents.  “But what about me, God?” At family gatherings, your name is left out when grandchildren are being introduced.

And there are those who had children out of wedlock, who have had to struggle and are struggling to cater for their child(ren). The other half who contributed to the conception of the child is nowhere to be found, even if he’s around, he doesn’t care… or so it seems.

And there are those who are single parents because their marriage broke down. But the children still need to be cared for.

And there is yet another category of mothers who are widows; the ill-timed enemy called death came and took away their husbands.

How about those unmarried women who long to be mothers?

For some strange reason, I’m burdened for those who are yet to be mothers (married or unmarried) and those who are mothers but in less than ideal circumstances, this Mother’s day.

There is a Bible chapter that I want to share, with those who find what is supposed to be a joyous occasion, a reminder of what is yet to be or what could  or would have been. I’m not going to offer my thoughts on it but I’d say… prayerfully read, Isaiah 54, and let God speak to you.

Sharing in the pain, yet standing in faith that God does impossible things (Matthew 19:26).

Blessings,
Lady Akofa
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Tuesday, 20 December 2011

Of my favourite Christmas carols

I have always loved Christmas carols; both listening and singing to them.

If you ask what my favourite Christmas song is, I doubt I’d be able to pin point a single one. I tried listing my favourite 5 on my facebook page and then remembered all the others that I love but didn’t list, haha!

In my childhood days, I listened to whatever carol was available and eagerly learnt those taught in our singing class at school. We had really good music teacher, Mr. Okine, who was passionate about each group (tenor, soprano, bass and alto) getting it right and on the beat. He had a bamboo cane with a cock head shaped tip to ensure that, haha! I remember Mr. Okine teaching us, “The Holly and the Ivy” and “In the Bleak Midwinter,” although most of us hadn’t seen snow before at that time in our lives, haha! May his soul rest in peace.

I remember often listening to Boney M.’s in one of my next door neighbour’s house when I went to play with them during this season. I often associate, Boney M.’s “Feliz Navidad,” and “Mary’s Boy Child/Oh my Lord,” with this family. Today, Boney M.'s Christmas carols are heard all over town.

At home, my dad often played Christmas country music; both the ‘blueish’ ones and the upbeat ones like, “Jingle Bells.”

And then when I got to secondary school, I joined the school choir and was part of the annual tradition in which we hosted the Nine Lessons and Carols Service for our school and for the alumni. To learn to sing Handel’s “Messiah,” was a heavenly experience.

Now, I’m more interested in the word content of the carols; those that speak of the advent of the Messiah, of waiting for His coming, of his Light and of His coming deliverance and of the establishment of His Kingdom. This is partly because of my own personal need and partly because I long to see God’s kingdom established in my family. We are beginning to see relatives give their lives to the LORD in recent years and I’m more than thrilled at what God is doing.

Also, ever since I took my first 90 day Bible reading challenge and followed the account of God’s chosen people and how non-Jewish have been called to be a part in our day, I’ve always looked forward to the day that Heaven (the New Kingdom) will be a reality. I was so enthralled by the temple design of Solomon’s day that by the time I got to Matthew in my reading challenge, I kept asking, “Ah! So where is the Kingdom? Where are God’s people – the 12 tribes?” Oh, blessed that John the Baptist came preaching the coming of the One, who would establish the Kingdom: Jesus Christ.

So in this season of my life, I will say, “O come, o come Emmanuel,” and “O Holy Night” are my favourite Christmas carols. I do more of quiet meditation on the words than sing them. And that has been meaningful to me. Some hymns books list all 8 stanzas, others 6, and some others 4 but I share the stanzas in no particular order from, “O come, o come Emmanuel,” that resonate with me:

O come, Thou Rod of Jesse, free
Thine own from Satan’s tyranny;
From depths of hell Thy people save,
And give them victory over the grave.

Refrain: Rejoice! Rejoice! Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel.

O come, Thou Day-spring, come and cheer
Our spirits by Thine advent here;
Disperse the gloomy clouds of night,
And death’s dark shadows put to flight.

Refrain: Rejoice! Rejoice! Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel.

O come, Thou Key of David, come,
And open wide our heavenly home;
Make safe the way that leads on high,
And close the path to misery.

Refrain: Rejoice! Rejoice! Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel.

Perhaps, next year or in 5 years, I might tell you of my new favourite Christmas song.

Have a Merry and Cheery Christmas!
Lady Akofa.

Wednesday, 12 October 2011

Lady Akofa’s WHAT EVERY WOMAN NEEDS IN HER WARDROBE

Obviously, this is a vain list… for people like moi who have such time to think up such a list… Of course, not all women can afford this, I know. And most women have lived without these items. But what does it matter?  Do I have all these items? Nope!

This may well be my 1st submission for “Vanity Fair” magazine, wink, wink. For the sake of silliness, humor, vanity, self-indulgence, I also seek your indulgence! :-) Pun definitely intended! :-)

1.    A simple black dress, that can be worn with coloured accessories over and over again.
2.    A pair of coloured shoes, bag, scarf or shawl, earrings; all to match.
3.    A simple stud pearl earrings and a matching necklace.
4.    A long black skirt/ knee-length black skirt/ a pair of black trousers that can be worn with any coloured or any multi-coloured blouse.
5.    If married, a lingerie is a must. I’m sure Dear Husband will appreciate more than one though.

That’s it! Vanity Shop is CLOSED. Thanks for stopping by. :-)
 
God bless ya,
Lady Akofa.

Monday, 10 October 2011

Lady Akofa’s ESSENTIALS FOR THE HOME


These are things I think homeowners or renters (is that a word?) need, but don’t always consider or think that these tools are needed until there is an emergency. In order of importance, not written. :-)

1. A plunger
2. A cobweb brush
3. A ladder
4. A fire extinguisher
5. A rake, if you have a yard or a garden
6. A screw driver and spanner set
7. Bolts and nuts
8. A sewing kit
9. A torchlight/ flash light
10. A first aid kit/box

Anything else?

God bless ya,
Lady Akofa.

Friday, 24 December 2010

Immanuel! Immanuel! Immanuel!

I’m hoping for a different and unique Christmas season this year. I hope to spend time with my family and over good food, of course! : - ) I might visit a few friends as well.

I’ve been listening to Christmas carols. Sometimes I meditate on the words, especially those that speak of the coming Messiah’s birth and the salvation His has brought to all people. You should try it! I mean take out a hymn book or search the internet for Gospel centered Christmas carols and feast your heart and mind on them. Of all the songs, "O come, O come Emmanuel," has resonated with me this season.

The Israelites had been waiting, for a the King who would sit on David's throne. The King who would restore the Kingdom that had been destroyed through the sins of their forefathers. They were looking forward to the Prophet who would be greater than Moses. The Messiah who would be the Great Restorer and Deliverer. Isaiah, Jeremiah and others had prophesied about this King. And for a long time, there was no Word from the LORD. It seemed the prophets had padlocked lips for a season. And all of suddenly a young, unassuming lady was pregnant with that long anticipated King!

We don’t know what pleasant surprises or challenges may come our way in 2011 but these are bound to happen. Life is a roller coaster sometimes! However, God is ALWAYS with us in the midst of our joys, accomplishments, pain, sadness and all. We should feast on this Truth and more importantly at those trying times when it appears as if God has closed shop and gone to bed for good, lol! Remember.... His Name is Immanuel, God with us.

All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had said through the prophet: “The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel” which means
“God with us”.
When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife
Matthew 1:22-24


Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said,
“Never will I leave you;
never will I forsake you.
”

So we say with confidence,
“The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid.
What can mere mortals do to me?”
Hebrews 13:5-6

To my bloggie friends and random visitors, I wish you God’s blessings & may You feel God’s loving embrace throughout the coming year!

God is with me & God is with you. Amen!

God bless ya,
Lady Akofa.

Tuesday, 23 February 2010

His Mercy

I've been thinking about God's mercy lately and how undeserving I am of His goodness. Yet He freely gives it... ABUNDANTLY.

At one time we too were foolish, disobedient, deceived and enslaved by all kinds of passions and pleasures. We lived in malice and envy, being hated and hating one another. But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He saved us through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us generously through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that, having been justified by his grace, we might become heirs having the hope of eternal life. ---Titus 3:4-7 (NIV)

Because of His Mercy I've received His free gift of salvation.

My so-called 'righteousness' couldn't have earned His mercy... in fact, I couldn't have done anything to merit it because I was just incapable of living to please Him. I'm grateful.

Mercy

In deep thoughts lately,
Lady Akofa.

Thursday, 4 September 2008

Honouring your parent(s) as a teen or young adult 3

I know a gentleman, a few years younger than I, who consistently came to work late, left work early and was generally lazy. All correction, reproof and counsel from staff members, supervisors and his father fell on deaf ears. We lost touch and finally had the opportunity to ask of him about 2 years ago. He had been fired and sent out of his father’s home, with his wife and lil' children.

Selah.

Still on the subject of young people honouring their parents, I’m focusing this time on being on the receiving end of parental rebuke and discipline. The book of Proverbs has several verses on this discussion:

Proverbs 9:7-9

Proverbs 15:31-32

Proverbs 17:10

Proverbs 27:5

and from the book of Revelations, 3:19.

Consider the pattern in the above gold nuggets. It seems that the wise, the discerning are the only ones who understand the purpose for rebukes and instructions, thus they accept it and hopefully, make changes. However, the foolish, the mocker and the wicked who actually need much rebuke don’t take instruction at all. In fact, 100 lashes wouldn't benefit a fool, Proverbs 17:10. And they get worst still, sometimes to the point of ruin.

God also disciplines us, just as our parents do. Why? Because they love us and want the best for us. See Hebrews 12:1-13.

“No instruction = Destruction,” says the Spirit of God.


Thus a Word to the Wise is enough!


Read part 1 here and part 2 here.

Tuesday, 2 September 2008

Honouring your parent(s) as a teen or young adult 2

Perhaps, I have never considered the essence of this charge or fully comprehended the word, “honour,” until recently. Maybe you haven’t too. There are several dictionary definitions and I’m selecting only those relevant to this discussion.

Honour- great respect and admiration for somebody

Honour (pertaining to moral behaviour)-the quality of knowing and doing what is morally right, e.g. “a man of honour.”

Great respect. Admiration. For somebody…. Your parent. My parent. We could and should give thought to what we’ve always admired about them.


Is it possible to respect my parent even when I disagree with their opinion? I think so.

Could I and my parent respectfully disagree on an issue when our perspectives differ? I think so.

Is it possible to obey my parent even when I don’t understand the given instruction or why it’s necessary for me to do it? I think so.


Obeying and honouring our parents is a daily choice. Even when we think we know better because of the advances of our technology-filled and fast-paced world. They have more life experience, than we do and are much wiser beyond our years. How would you feel as a young person if a lil’ sibling of say, 3 years impertinently asked to ride your bicycle instead of his/her tricycle? You and I know what the consequences might be, don’t ya?

Paul reminded the Ephesians, see 6:1-3, that this was the first command with a promise. Wouldn’t you do what is required of you if there was a promise of good attached to it? What is the sure promise then? God promises that it may go well with us and that we may live long on earth. I want to live a good, long life for sure; I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Note: As to godly young people who die prematurely, though they kept God’s Word, I honestly don’t have an answer. God is Sovereign. He gives and takes life. But for the majority of us who chose to obey this command and all of His Word, we’ll live long and good. I believe so.

Read Part 1 here

To be continued...

Thursday, 28 August 2008

Honouring your parent(s) as a teen or young adult

This is the first of a 3-part series on honouring our parents. If you're still living at home as a young adult or have left home early 'cos you don't get along well with your parents, you might want to stick around to read what God has been teaching me and wants to tell us! This is critical for our times and for the good future we desire to have.


Does not Scripture say about itself that it’s inspired by the Holy Spirit and it's useful for correcting, rebuking, teaching and training the man (woman) of God in righteousness so that s/he will be thoroughly equipped for every good work?


Drum Roll, please… I can’t hear you, louder! …… Ok, ok, that’s enough. If you didn’t clap or drum on your desk, then you chose not to give God the glory. Aaah…Just kidding! :)


A parental rebuke and our recent church bible study on the 10 commandments have stopped me…... Shriieeeeek! Did you hear that? …… in my trucks. Deuteronomy 5:16. I’ve lately found myself falling short of God’s glory in the area of honouring and respecting my parents especially when I disagree with them or when I’m made to feel like a kid. The latter springs forth attitudes and reactions that you’d literally read as, “I’m not a baby, I can do this on my own,” or “Can’t you see that I already know how to do this?” Oftentimes, my non-verbal cues, the rolling eyeballs and my gruffly tone betray me. Aaaah… as a man thinketh so is he.


This has been an all time challenge for teens and young adults living at home. Most teens and young adults at home willl identify with me here. Much older ones, who have moved out, will look back on their hey days when they experienced similar conflicts with their parents. It is not uncommon for African young adults to stay at home for much longer periods than their American and European counterparts. Thus I'm still with my parents and choose to be with them in this season.


In this season, we are looking to establish our independence, identity, status and to navigate the stormy waters of transition to adulthood. Seemingly, we now know how to make decisions and do things. We think we know it all and have figured out how Life works but we really don’t.


LORD, have mercy and forgive us.


To be continued...


Monday, 23 June 2008

After work bag inspection


Somebody loves to inspect and rummage through my bag(s), after work. And he does so at random, unscheduled times.



Look at what I found in her bag! A blue fan!

My nephew, Kofi, also loves to wear my shoes from time to time, like these pink flip flops. Don't blame this cute kid, he didn't make that mess on the bed behind him, I did. :)

I think he's saying, "I see you bluish!"

Thursday, 27 December 2007

A 2006 going on to 2007 advice from my Mom

During the Christmas season last year, I got several calls, text messages, e-mails, e-cards and cards laden with Christmas messages and goodwill messages for the year 2007. Some included Scriptures and I remember writing them down. I did and do appreciate them all. Looking back, the Season’s message that was most significant for me was from my mom. And it wasn’t written or typed out either… it was a heart-to-heart talk.

And I share this for somebody’s encouragement. Romans 15: 4

My mom, knowing my situation and my thoughts at that time, took me through Psalm 124, asking me to remember the LORD’s goodness and faithfulness to me in times past. The Israelites or should I say David (it’s a psalm of David, not so?) proclaimed the LORD and only Him in rescuing them and being on their side. They acknowledged that their Help was in the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth. If the LORD had not been on my side, let Akofa say…..

Then she shared a second Scripture bit: Psalm 121. This, I was to hold on to in my future days, knowing that the LORD is my only Help when I skim through all people, things and places (Psalm 121:1-2). Day and Night the LORD watches over me and in all my going out and coming in. What a gracious God!

These two have truly kept me going this year especially Psalm 121. I know, my Papa God has been and is still my Help and my Protector. So I thank Him for His 24 hour Help and Protection. How sad that I’m unable to thank Him 24 hours here on earth for what He does for me!

So I thank God for my mom and her message and I pray that this will also bless you!!!
Happy New Year and may God Almighty be your HELP in 2008, whatever befalls you.


O God, our help in ages past,
Our hope for years to come,
Our shelter from the stormy blast,
And our eternal home.

Beneath the shadow of your throne
Your people dwell secure;
Sufficient is your arm alone,
And our defence is sure.

O God, our help in ages past,
Our hope for years to come,
Our guard while this world’s troubles last,
And our eternal home.*


* The first two stanzas and the 6th stanza of the hymn, O God our help. Credited to Isaac Watts (1674-1748).

Tuesday, 20 November 2007

The Three Musketeers


The Three Lovely Musketeers at my graduation. It's always good to have family especially, sisters, share in your joy on jubilant days .
Nana Akua and Kate were instrumental in encouraging and supporting me throughout my graduate school journey. And I appreciate their love and care.

Happy Birthday, Mama!!!



Not that I lack the words to express my gratitude and love to my mom as she celebrates her birthday... no.... or maybe, I do. :) So, I'm borrowing the words of BOYS II MEN, from their song, "Mama," in celebration of my mother's birthday.


Mama

You taught me everything
And everything you’ve given me
I always keep it inside
You’re the driving force in my life, yeah
There isn’t anything
Or anyone I can be
And it just wouldn’t feel right
If I didn’t have you by my side
You were there for me to love and care for me
When skies were grey
Whenever I was down
You were always there to comfort me
And no one else can be what you have been to me
You’ll always be you always will be the girl
In my life for all times

Chorus:
Mama, mama you know I love you
Oh you know I love you
Mama, mama you’re the queen of my heart
Your love is like
Tears from the stars
Mama, I just want you to know
Lovin’ you is like food to my soul
You’re always down for me
Have always been around for me even when I was bad
You showed me right from my wrong
Yes you did
And you took up for me
When everyone was downin’ me
You always did understand
You gave me strength to go on
There was so many times
Looking back when I was so afraid
And then you come to me
And say to me I can face anything
And no one else can do
What you have done for me
You’ll always be
You will always be the girl in my life

Friday, 26 October 2007

Grandma and Grandson











He loves to pose, smile, and say "Cheese!" when it's picture taking time. And while our three generational home lasts, Kofi loves to chat with his Grandma. Although most of Kofi's chatter is unintelligible and almost meaningless, his Grandma pays good attention and engages him in whatever he wants to talk about. I really don't get what they say, nonetheless, they get along so well.